That sucks man.

Some people just need more attention than others, and get upset when they don't get it (yet don't bother to try and get in contact themselves).

Just give em a call and catch up or something, should be fine.

If it isn't, then they're obviously a cock-smoker and you're better off without them.

geez - thats a bit harsh. did your friendship end badly?

Thanks loki.

k2, our friendship didn't end, that's the thing. They sent me off from Melbourne happily, and before that they were travelling and didn't email me for a year...

... Just totally confused. :/

I think they (your friend) have been reading too much cosmo or cleo.

big nuts doesn't usually give advise but

ring them up, have a chat and at least try to sound it out, if not at least you'll know the reason therefore reducing your stress

and i do have large ones

advithe

i wouldn't normally think bignuts is an advice kinda dude, but he's on point.

but then again, your friend has either found a fucked religion or has a horrible girlfriend and should probs be forgotten. No matter what, you'd have to be a bit of a cunt to write a reply like that.

wow thats shitty. i've had that happen but i can't remember a shithouse answer like that

Call them rather than e-mail, so your friend can't pull out these facile quotes he more than likely heard on Dr Phil or got out of a book. He must be on some sorta kick if he thinks he has to categorise his friends to avoid emotional confusion (?)

There's like a gazillion people on this planet. If they don't appreciate your efforts there are plenty of other who will. Cut them off. Move on.

cunty.

DITCH THAT ZEE-ROW AND GET YO'SELF A HEE-ROW!

Some people just need more attention than others, and get upset when they don't get it (yet don't bother to try and get in contact themselves).

hit the nail on the head. a true friend can go years without contact if that's what happens and then still pick up where you left off. i have many friends like this and when we do have a random encounter/chat again, it's full of equal amounts of love.

not sure this person is what you need in life fella. we are all busy people and life does take over some times... there are so many people i am trying to catch up with... but the weeks seem to slip away.

i'd like to throw my weight behind loki and sveltie's sentiments.

my best friends are those that i often don't see for years at a time. because i have a natural tendency towards being a bit of a hermit, people who demand massive amounts of time and attention inevitably end up bugging me and/or giving up.

What a phlegmatic nobhead.

oh wow andyr! I had the exact same thing happen to me the other day!

I was going to work on the tram, and thought of an old (and someone i considered one of my best) friend, from back in Perth, I havent spoken to for about 2 years, but we would often go extended periods of time without contacting each other, when we did it was just like we saw each other yesterday.

I sent her this message:
Hiya long lost friend! how you doing!? just a quick message to say i was thinking of you, hope your well! its been too long! Kristy.

I got this in reply:
Im fine.

I would say thats a friendship "recategorising".
It really hurt, I dont know what i have done wrong, you would think that in two years she would have gotten over whatever it was (and i have no idea).

yeah. if this friend felt that there had to be constant contact to stay close, why didn't he or she make an effort while you were gone? i think that sucks.

there are friends i talk to often, and friends i rarely see... but at the end of the day, it doesn't matter which is which - because the ones i know are true friends are the ones i would drop anything to be there for them when they need me. and whom i can pick up exactly where i left off each time i see them - be that once a week, or once a year.

sometimes they are not even people i have known very long... but i don't think that matters either. there should not be rules to dictate friendships - just warmth towards the other person.

it is sad that your friend doesn't feel like this, but says more about them than about you. it does suck - especially since you were not aware of this recategorisation until now. i wonder what sparked them off?!?

have a chat to your friend, and see if you can resolve this. good luck. i have had friendships die in the past without quite knowing what went wrong, and it is a horrible feeling.

some are meant to be lost.

so true japan.

recategorising??? wtf does that mean? do these people have TQM friendships now???

Are you sure they're not being facetious?

That's the way I read it.

i was actually taking the mick out of myself re succinctness, but thank you for making this website personal venting place again. it has been sorely missed.

Fucking hell people get with the times!

I met an old friend a while back and she was on Ice and off her head and it all went well for a few hours till she went all aggro on me. It was incredible. she just snapped. ive never seen her aggressive . ever.
She wanted to ''kick my head in'' over something that didnt exist.

Have a nice life, ** !!

I am so glad I've never been down the ice road - it sounds like a hell of a drug.

Hey Feeee!

YOU: ''Wanna play date on Boxing Day or the day after?''
ME: ''Bring the punchbowl, hun!''

YAH

sounds like he has just done 'landmark forum' or something similar

people go a bit odd after that but it usually wears off.

apologies to anyone who is a fan. It's just i'm not!

boxing day is all about cricket and tinnies, ohyeah. fe is being a just a little out of line on that one.

Hehehe. It's not that she wants to watch the cricket, it's that she obviously doens't want to see me and makes excuses. She could have just as easily said ''No, I'm planning on lickign the cat's butt that day.''

I would have gone to her house and watched the cricket while eating twinpoles if I had been invited.

MEH. I shall be drinking sangria with Spidey.

Sometimes things just change so much between people that it is awkward being around them when once it was natural.

That's exactly it los. A sad state of affairs.

i have a friend who is seemingly no longer a friend.. maybe both our decision, but funny noticing it in the rather brief back and forth words there have been lately. I'm not as sad as I thought I may be. I think I put up with a lot and gave of myself and my time quite a lot, to be a good friend. But you get sick of being treated like shit.

MEH. I shall be drinking sangria with Spidey.

Second choice but the best choice! haha!

I had a friend who just cut us off. I don't hold it against him, but I wish I could get my Digable Planet CD and my T(I)NC CDs back. :-/

i love twin poles. the purple ones that made an entrance about 5 years ago kick arse over the originals and they were pretty rad.

sounds like they felt hurt when they lost contact with you.

I've been on both sides here. I have to say its hard when people grow apart, especially when people get married and have kids. Some people I miss terribly but the people they are now arent the same people we were back in the day. On the other hand I got an email from an old friend a couple of months back telling me all about how they've got their life back on track and would love to catch up and getting all nostalgic blah blah blah and how they thought I was a great friend and I have nothing but bad memories about this person. I told them to go stick it and they actually seemed suprised.

OP, sounds like your friend doesn't understand how to interact with people good

I think i'm killing a friendship off as we speak this morning. :-/

There are people i've lost contact or have minimal contact with just because i think both of us are in different places and our lives just don't intersect anymore. I don't think less of them for it, as i myself could have made just the same amount of effort. I understand it's hard to keep up friendships sometimes.

Not many have weathered the storm of time - I think this just happens in life. Most of them have faded out, gone off and done there own thing and me mine. I don't feel bad about it, it hurts at the time, but people will be people.