For all the fatfuckathon and laying off the ham jokes - I seriously need some advice from you chats about additction.
A close relative of mine has been fairly overwieght on and off his entire life, but has been pretty bad in the past 10 years or so - I don't know but I'd say pushing 150kgs. Anyway he's 39, got 2 small kids and another on the way, a lovely missus, house the whole bit and last night had heart pains and was ambulanced to hospital. Its is most likely a mini-heart attack. He's already (we recently found out) on blood pressure tablets.
I am so fucking furious that it's taken this emergency to shake him out of his dependancy of eating crap, although it remains to be seen what steps he'll take to get into a healthy weight range. Of course I (and everyone around him) want to be as supportive as possible and know that lecturing someone on what they already know goes nowhere, but seriously it's like he's an alcoholic, killing himslef in front of his young family and all we can do is watch.
Anyway, got that off my chest. Any suggestions would be good (note- I already know he needs do pushups and lay off the ham - and so does he)
Remeber it's an addiction and not a choice. Getting angry doesn't help - unless it somehow makes you feel better...
It's my ususal reaction to bad news tangz. I will stew on it for a bit, then iIt will pass.
yeah agree with tz. more or less breaking the habit of eating wrong foods and overeating. I would start with some professional help ie psychologist so they can help with a program of healthy eating and exercise and also getting to the bottom of why this person is compelled or addicted to this kind of damaging lifestyle. one step at a time; and it obviously won't be a simple process. Best of luck.
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i second the recommendation of a psych plus a good dietitian.
I can give you some advice about addiction but not of the fat kind. I was addicted to heroin and cocaine in my early 20s and despite all the well meaning and concerned attempts by family and friends to sort me out, all I gave a fuck about was getting fucked up on the hammer and the charlie.
When I eventually did kick it (after several attempts), having destroyed relationships and friendships through lying, cheating and stealing, it was only because I had a very brief moment of clarity and was able to see the carnage that my life had become..and the damage I had done to my family and (ex) friends. Watching someone go on the nod and never wake up was when I realised I was heading down the same path.
The only person who can sort your relo's problem out is him. I don't think you can give him any advice that is going to help him. He has had his moment of truth...and unlike my situation at the time, he has a young family to care for. I don't think he can get a bigger kick up the arse than that.
do you actuakky know at this stage what happened and if this is linked to his poor diet?
Find all the facts before you do anything else.
I can't help on the addiction side of eating but my mother in law (no jokes please) is in the same position and has been following the CSIRO diet. She's dropped over 50 kgs, the recipes are great and its about changing lifestyle not fad diet. The books can be found in almost any second hand store or ebay. Number 2 is better
yeah that is one of the very few diets around that is based on genuine research. It ups the protein and drops the carbs, always a good idea.