Peter said about 1 month ago or at 11:25AM on Friday, November 28 2008.
...ever been with each other.
as in: they met when they were, like, 15yo or something, then went 'steady' (or 'around with' each other) then, a few years later on, they married.
It's possibly a generational thing, which probably happened regularly during my parents' courting days. but in the small town in which i now live there are couples i have met with a similar background.
i find It freaky. and unsettling.
You're freaky and unsettling...
They probably think that their kinky sex is normal because they don't know any better.
''Honestly, I thought EVERYONE did that thing with earthworms''
well, i am freaky and unsettling and so is my bloke.
that's why we are still nuts about each other.
hey, we're just as surprised as anyone that it still works.
but we are not without close friendships with other people of the opposite sex and not above flirting either.
Mrs Smoke & I have been together since we were 17 & we're now both in our late 80s...does that count?
magicpants
even by your legendary standards, this seems pretty spectacular work.
I too find it weird. But hey, if they reckon it works, who am I to judge?
sensational confession, Mr Smoke. who'd of thought, at nearly 90 you're emerging a real rising star.
I've been with my husband since I was 16. It really does work! 8 years on (1.5 of marriage) and things are great.
but you've been with other people as well though hayley. that doesn't count.
I've got a few friends like that. They seem to be really happy, unnaturally so.
How old are you now?
I'm a rising star? OK, I may have aged us a little further than what is reality....we've been together for 20 years, married for 16 years. We've both been with other people though, so I'm not sure we really fit into what you're talking about.
Not sure why its weird.
I'm the only person my wife has been with.
We're pretty unbelievably happy after being together for almost 8 years and married for 2.
i've been with my wife on/off since i was 19, so at least i got in four years of bad teenage sex.
What fashionhayley doesn't know won't hurt her.
to qualify:
20 years (at minimum) +
only/ever=monogamy
Sure, Topher. She has no one to compare you to.
''Yeah, honey, 90 seconds is waaaaay above average''
I don't. It's about quality, not quantity. If you find someone who ticks all your boxes, who cares if you haven't spent years waking up and sneaking out of the bedrooms of strangers, or trying to remember some random's name so that you can politely ask him to get the fuck out of your house.
If you pay homage to the ''doesn't know any better'' idea, you must also acknowledge that the couple doesn't know any worse.
I tend to agree with that, chippie.
And some people find it first go, and some people never do.
*microwaves soup for one*
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Woah. Why tie opinion on to assumption?
Tis why. The PCness some people lay claim to is a fallacy.
It's not about being PC, it's about being realistic.
i don't buy the 'love the one you're with' bullshit at all. the first half of that line is 'if you can't be with the one you love...'
fuck 'settling' for a joke.
i am always curious about people who've only been with one person if only for the phenomenon of limited experience; I agree with violet's statement about it being madness to question you're own happiness if you're well aware that you're happy.
I get what you're saying, but at the same time a person who has been in a twenty-year relationship could say a person who has been single or in 10 different relationships over the same time frame has limited experience. It just depends on what sort of experience you’re talking about. It’s all valuable in different ways.
So you never make assumptions, kuro?
oooh. let's fight over whether OTHER peoples relationship choices may not be valid for us.
I don't like to make judgement calls where I think that people are 'wrong' in their personal relationship choices. Lots of people here are calling perfectly normal situations 'weird' or 'freaky' because it's not how they live their lives, and that sort of thinking irritates me.
that's a cool pic, plastic
sure does.
i've met people who've held down more/longer relationships than me who don't know jack about love, claim they've never felt it/experienced it.
screw quantity, experience is all about quality.
I agree with elaine on this one.
well it is ... but I dont actually know what the relevance is has ... maybe subliminally
Who said it was a fight? And by saying some couple's relationship is weird does not necessarily imply that one thinks that said people are weirdos. Just that they, personally, find their relationship to be difficult to fathom.
No judgement calls, just speculations.
Modi said 1 hour ago:
A question that bears repeating.
Yes. Well said elaine. Threads like this remind me of what a bunch of bellends a lot of people on this site are....& no, I'm not excluding myself from that assesment.
Yeah, was being a bit fractured and crazy there. Four things going on at once.
violet, that was what i was trying to get at too.
well...back after a refreshing four hours of sleep!
replies follow in some sort of order (off worthiness)
Kunnington - good question, and exactly the reason why i started the thread. M+N...It's a journey of self discovery.
kuroneko - simply because 'i find' something 'freaky, etc' doesn't mean that thing actually is. what it does mean, however, is that i want to know why it makes me feel this way. btw - this is about as far from the hollow ring of lost conviction as it gets as well as being totally realistic.
.> screw quantity, experience is all about quality.
wot nicko said.