Andrew, what are you researching?

Do you get along well with your parents? How often do you speak or meet with them in your adult life?

yes. we have lunch every wednesday unless we can't. and i may see them on the weekend as well.

Do you find yourself becoming more like them as you grow older, or are you independent following your own path?

independently following my own path. which is not to say that i don't have some similarities and values. But the way I live my life is different to that which they would choose.

my mum texted me a 6.30 this morning... to tell me not to be too depressed and get my windscreen fixed...thanx mum.

I hope I'm not too much like my father- because he's dead.

i really don't like my dad.

I've been going thru a phase of getting horribly drunk, ringing my dad & abusing him. I think it's years of bottling-up...

Given the high participation rate over at the anti-depressants thread, I'm surprised this one didn't take off more. Surely there's plenty of family dysfunction out there to be shared? I think I'm on the brink of 'falling out' with my mother, in a situation that's both had-to-happen and wish-it-wasn't. Come on M&N, spill.

My parents rock...we see them all the time, they are currently taking smoke jr on holiday to Alice Springs...they rock. Mrs Smokes parents however....

^^^ Should've been a counselling session, perhaps. Just pre-empting. Cut me some slack, I don't have a blog.

x-post. too fast littlesmoke.

I'm very close to my parents, moreso since I've been living away from them. I don't see them often since they live 3 1/2 hours away. But I talk to them on the phone every other day, usually. My whole family is very close.

I have always been a lot like my dad, we have a lot of the same personality traits. He is a far more honourable and gentle person than I am, though.

had i stayed at my parent's place rather than moving out, i think another 6 months and we would have had a serious falling out.

i get along better with them the further away from them i live.

i'm getting more and more like them in ways i didn't expect, but the way i lead my life is very different to how they led theirs.

Oh..yeah, I'm a lot like them both in different ways, as is my brother...in different ways again.

i get my worrying and crying at weddings from my mum, i get a lot of my other personality traits from my dad.

I miss my parents - they live hours away too.
I tlk to them on a regular basis - probably should ring more though.

I work shifts in hospital so it is hard with hours etc but my younger brois on the computer so we 'chat' a bit and he passes it on.
I think I am like my mum in ways that I did not expect either, but I have my dad's sense of humour!
:)

For me it's my good sense, judgement, kindness & good looks from Mum & my mad woggedness from Dad.

I'm not like my parents at all. My older sister and brother are, but me and my little sister have been raised by wolves, it seems, because we are not like the rest of the family at all. Sometimes my Mum looks at me and I can tell she's thinking ''where the hell did you come from'' but she loves me anyway.

my manic depressive and suicidal mother moved in with me and my husband 2 years ago. our relationship deteriorated rapidly. she moved out april 2007 when i was about 5-6 months pregnant with my first child. i have barely seen or heard from her since. when she left, she left all her things. she currently lives out of a bag moving around house/farm sitting now. i've packed up all her things out of my view and when i get upset throw some of it in the bin or bag it up for the op shop.
it's all been quite upsetting.
my dad lives in america married to a woman there. it's his second marriage and her 5th. he has repeatedly cheated on is partners over the years.
my parents had two kids before they had me that were adopted out.
my parents are a bit screwed up.

shit DaisyB - that is a downer.

good to see you have your head screwed on straight.

DaisyB, you have put my situation in perspective. You've had some tough times!

That's great Coz, take notes! Or even record it if you have some gadget handy and he doesn't mind. My Dad died a couple of years ago and I wish I'd had a chat like that with him. His past isn't a total mystery to me, but there are certainly things I'd like to have asked.

My dad is flying down tonight and we are driving from Melbourne to Brisbane together. It should be an interesting and enjoyable road trip.

my dad was in the SAS. he's got some pretty interesting stories, but there's also a lot of stuff he can't/won't talk about.

Sunnyboyz said 22 minutes ago:
My dad is flying down tonight and we are driving from Melbourne to Brisbane together. It should be an interesting and enjoyable road trip.

Your dad flying down from Brisbane and roadtrip back to Brisbane with you? LOL
BTW, you should buy your dad the Achtung Baby deluxe boxset.

I moved back in with my mother in February on a temporary basis as she’d just lost my step-dad and wasn’t coping too well and I was away so much and didn’t want to pay rent in Sydney.

Previously, it was my idea of hell to be living with my mother at the age of 36 but it’s been pretty fucking awesome. The fact that I’ve been away for 5 months this year has helped enormously, and I still spend time in Sydney with friends regularly, but I also think that I’m appreciating it because I’ve lost both my father and my step-father and I regret not spending more time with them.

We don’t see eye-to-eye on some topics (refugees / carbon tax are a couple of examples) and there’ve been a couple of explosions of temper but we’re getting along really well, having a laugh and just enjoying each other’s company.

Seeing her turn the corner from grief stricken to the point where she could barely function and we were all really fucking worried about her to smiling, cooking and listening to music again has been such a relief.

We’re heading over to the UK with our whole family in December for a big family Christmas in UK/NYE in Paris which we’ve never done before and I can’t fucking wait! Admittedly I’ve booked myself 3 nights in Paris by myself at the end when they’re gone because I’ll probably be sick of them all.

Planning to move out in Jan/Feb but I’m actually in no hurry.

Parents can be fucking awesome!

My old man gave me a glass of Pinot Noir of I was 13.
That wine was over $100 a bottle.
He taught me how to smoke ciger when I was 21.

Dad is flying down cos he didn't want me doing the 20 hour drive on the Newell highway by myself. I also think he has written more of his theology phd and I'm the only family member who has the patience to listen to him. Ha.

My mother is driving me crazy. She's an odd one.

In what way,miss katie?

A myriad of ways. Examples: Talks all the time, hijacks conversations, makes everything about her, insists on sharing with me her every thought...the monologue is endless. (I'm a quiet person.)

Don't want to hurt her feelings, but I can feel the stabby rising.

Ah, right...yes, know the feeling.

I'm doing a doctoral thesis on psychoanalysis - nuff sed.

hehe

Truth be told I'm not sure that my family situation is that much worse than most peoples.

Prob. not.

Nawww. I feel bad now.

Sorry mum.

(This is how they fuck you up.)

I have a mother that constantly wants to move and is always changing jobs, now this would be okay if she a) Didn't have a heart condition. b) Wasn't finding legal battles to pick where ever she goes. She has finally found a place in the Mountains and I suspect she might stay there for sometime, fingers crossed she won't find anything wrong with it and all will go smoothly. She is like the Gordon Ramsay of rental properties and jobs. It gets so tiring after a while.

Maybe she'll grow her own pot and take up basket weaving. One can hope.

It's very crafty and relaxed down there, lets hope it rubs off on her.

My father was accountant, but he is dead and I miss him. I do like my mother in small doses.