I see this girl everyday who works the counter in my local coffee shop and I'm completely smitten. I want to ask her out but don't know how to go about it.
I had this idea about writing a song for her - nothing too sentimental or corn heavy - just a breezy acoustic song that explains that I think she's wonderful and I'd like to get to know her. I'd make it a little humorous too and ask her out on a date in the song.
So my plan was to order my coffee as per usual, pay for it and then hand her the CD with my song on it and say almost as an afterthought ''Oh and this is for you'' - and then leave. If she's interested she can call/email me (CD art will include my contact details) - if she's not well I lose a favourite coffee haunt forever!
Is this a stupid idea? Should I just ask her out directly? Ladies would this creep you out if someone did this to you? I don't plan on making any follow up CD's or attempts to win her affection. I'm no stalker - this will be a once only thing.
Should I do it?
yes
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my advice is.. don't do it.
no. ask her out.
Just ask her out. Straight up, face to face. Does she seem interested in you?
the song / cd thing is pretty wack.
Thats my opinion.
Ask her something non-commital to get an idea. i.e.
''Hey, my friend wants to ask out a girl who works in a coffee shop, but he's worried she'll freak out and he won't be able to face going back there for coffee. Would it freak you out if one of your regulars asked you out on a date?''
ahhh mrmusic is gold.
Do it while she is serving someone!
Take her out for coffee.
I had this idea about writing a song for her - nothing too sentimental or corn heavy - just a breezy acoustic song that explains that I think she's wonderful and I'd like to get to know her. I'd make it a little humorous too and ask her out on a date in the song.
hahahahahaha
troll alert?
that said, i know an ugly guy who screws a lot of girls because he games them by talking about how lonely they look, and hey, 'have this mix CD i made'. evidently dumb-bitches will fall for anything so you might actually be in with a shot.
i love the idea as a girl, but i know that most girls would play it to all their friends and have a good laugh about it. (Though i didn't do this when i had a song written about me hehe)
I'd ask her out ''I've got tickets to x and was wondering if you'd like to come' or some such
I've talked with her every morning for 4 months. We get on famously, have similar interests and stuff. I don't know whether she likes me but she's always glad to see me.
Then again she's probably just really good at customer service.
Maybe I won't do the CD thing.
wow. that's a really awful idea which will surely result in you needing to find a new coffee shop.
in response to what charles said, its ok we were already dating when he wrote it
You are SUCH a fucking fag that you deserve the horrible rejection you're going to get.
Here's an idea fuckwit, instead of treating her like some romantic fantasy object you fucking poof, treat her like a human being. A human being with a vagina, but a human being nonetheless. Human's like drinking and fucking. Talk to her, when the moments right, say ''I like yer stuff. Wanna fuck?''
Mind you, if you're not me that might not work, so try asking her out for a drink. Not dinner, not a movie, not a coffee, but booze.
Mind you, MrMusic's advice isn't bad.
See, normal serving wenches are easy. Barchicks are a bit harder, and strippers are harder still, but it can be done if you just bother to give it a shot.
Just ask her out.
do it. one day you'll be too old, boring and committed to do lovely things like this. if it doesn't work out, you'll know
I'm no troll!
Is my idea that bad?
CD is a bad idea.
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yesss
Any update?
i married my coffee shop girl last week :-)
that is awesome! congratualtions mate, I started reading from the beginning of the thread, nice to have a happy ending!
tenzenmen = LonesomeRhodes???
Maybe someone should buy a espresso maker for your wedding.
have a barista perform the ceremony. People can throw coffee beans instead of confetti.
Dudewolf could take do with some tips
What a lovely story.
Maybe someone should buy a espresso maker for your wedding.
the owner of the coffee shop did just that!
so what happened
They started a music festival in qld and lived happily ever after.
oh congratulations tman.
er...what? the whole story?
and cheers sister and everyone else for your congrats
WHOLE STORY! handclaps WHOLE STORY! handclaps
what?! I must have missed this thread's happy conclusion. had no idea tenz! congrats!
was it the song i heard on triplej a few times about the dodgy cafe with the nice waitress? always wondered that....
just ask her this:
''hey have you ever had a customer ask you out? or hit on you?''
coffee shop girl can reply with these possible answers:
''Yes. It happens all the time''
''Yes. However, I have a boyfriend''
''I've never had that happen before''
''I wish someone would, that would be nice''
''I hope not. All the customers here are indie hipster corduroy wearing assholes''
oh....I'm too late. What a delightful little story :-)
I for one would like to know how many times people behind the bar get hit on, and what they think about it...
What method would work without coming across as a sleaze??
Asking Out The Taco Girl thread, anyone?
Try proposing to the barmaid. Then finding out she has a boyfriend. Slag boyfriend off. Realise a little bit later that he's standing right next to you. Still, he has a ponytail. Quite ungraciously continue to denounce him. Get your sister to drag you from the bar. Never go back to Bennett's lane again.
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