Uh, everyone understands that if you've been burnt horribly, it's not really a reflection on love, but rather on your choice in previous partners in part, and general societal standards in general right?
That really, it's not that love or relationships are bad, but that you through poor choice were dating someone fairly shit?
Uh, everyone gets that right? Because a lot of the posts I've read seem to indicate that you don't get that.
DAFSFFS
You just wanted to create a thread that would reach 56 million posts, without putting any effort in, didn't you Alex?
ADMIT IT!!!
''if you've been burnt horribly, it's not really a reflection on love, but rather on your choice in previous partners''
not really. if it were easy to tell who's going to do a number on you down the road, no-one would ever hook-up.
and sometimes people hurt you without intending to.
It can't that black and white though, can it alex?
The choice might not be bad, but 5 years down the track something unforeseen might happen to a person that changes them and as a result the reltionship breaks down.
People can't see into the future.
Actually lokihanns, I was just trying to get a point across that I think a lot of people miss.
Of course if you've been burnt you're not going to really trust people for a while, and the thought of relationships is going to send you running for the shotgun, but the main thing people forget...is that the real problem is in your taste.
snap, blake.
He's been burnt, but the kiddies still love him:
*nicko_mcbrain-not really. if it were easy to tell who's going to do a number on you down the road, no-one would ever hook-up.* In the beginning, possibly. But look on your own past. If you've ever been burnt, in hindsight, was it really that unexpected?
Take the case of me and the goth speed addict. Was it really a surprise that she fucked me over in the end? Nope. Hell, I don't even blame her for what she did at all anymore. Point is, I had enough warning signs to say ''You know what? This is over.''
and sometimes people hurt you without intending to. Ahhh bullshit. People cop out. ''I never meant to hurt you.'' What a load of fuck. If they were so blase about how what they did would affect you, they really are a piece of crap.
Same could be said about a second hand car, but people tend to blame the idiot that bought a crap piece of shit rather than cars in general now, don't they?
hahahahaha TJ. fucken genius.
Alex, this is like the antithesis of the old fashioned love thread. prolly didn't need strike out on yr own, tough guy. oh wait. you have an attention seeking personality disorder. sorry, forgot for a sec. maybe, if yr having an extra lonely day, you could start another thread to reply to this post, as opposed to just posting? make schnookems feel better?
blake3030 It can't that black and white though, can it alex? Yes it can be. Tell you what, you be as hardline as possible about what you'll put up with, and I guarrantee in the end you'll be better off for it.
The choice might not be bad, but 5 years down the track something unforeseen might happen to a person that changes them and as a result the reltionship breaks down. Hrrmmm. I doubt it. I think you can always see the seeds of what someone will become. One bad choice in attitude, behaviour, lifestyle, action, only spawns a plethora of bad choices. The trick is to catch them on the first one.
People can't see into the future. Say that in a gypsy camp and you're just asking for a knife fight.
nah - sometimes they're just too innocent to know. someone can demonstrate tremendous maturity, poise, thought whatever in many aspects of their life and not be able to apply it to relationships.
''If you've ever been burnt, in hindsight, was it really that unexpected?''
in one particular case, absolutely. the more unexpected it is, the more it fucks you up, i think.
i love love. i think it is ace.
jPack- No, this is actually exactly what it appears to be. Me pointing out that love and relationships aren't the problem, it's the people people chose to love that are the problem. And as I said, societal standards. Many times I've looked on with growing horror as people spout actions or reasons for actions and realised I'm the only one that sees how fucked up it is.
BADALEX is the only person who sees reason.
Like that dude next door who can see comets falling on his house every day.
*nicko_mcbrain said 1 minute ago: nah - sometimes they're just too innocent to know. someone can demonstrate tremendous maturity, poise, thought whatever in many aspects of their life and not be able to apply it to relationships.* Uh huh. Then when you're in the relationship, how long was it before you noticed they were actually a little fucked? Personality is not character.
in one particular case, absolutely. the more unexpected it is, the more it fucks you up, i think.
Really think about it. Was it actually unexpected, or was it more along the lines of ''I love them so much I don't want to, not can't, but don't want to possible imagine they;d be a fucked person.'' Hard as it is, I think you'll find I'm right.
Yeah Alex, I understand. I just think it could've been a really insightful post on an existing thread, rather than a kind of pastiche of a thread on its own. Meh, anyway, what do I care? Not my server. As you were.
I agree totally with you as well. As Hunter said, buy the ticket, take the ride.
Bianry- I'm not the only one. I'm just better at it than most. However, due to people like yourself, I rarely choose to show that.
nah, not fucked. confused.
timing, hey? what a cunt.
I'm sorry I hinder on your performance in Awesomeland.
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bake magnets into cupcakes
This was about work, not sex. But if you and your workmate have some stuff you both like, you can tell me, and if I dig it, I'll try it out too.
Now don't deny that you're already poking your colleague. This is The Internet. There are no lies.
This situation reminds me of when homer went on a work trip with Mindy.
''oh margey, you came and you bought me a turkey, on my vacation away from workey...''
do you like magnets, zaphy?
Ahh yes that is what it is. And I'm not sure if the relationship is worth this crap now when I think of it like this...
You need to HTFU and invent a chastity belt that tweets constant updates about your arousal status, and requires touch-tone activation from your girlfriend to allow temporary removal (toilet, shower). What better way to show you can be trusted to be monogamous than to relinquish your human rights?
Also it needs a webcam or, at the very least, the ability to automatically post TwitPics from its frontal camera when your arousal level reaches 6 or higher.
And if not, waterslides.
once I considered starting a thread titled ''Japan'' just to see how long it would take fashion hayley to post in it.
Sounds like she's testing the limits of her power over you. Seeing how much she can manipulate you. Not healthy.
How old is she, out of interest?
THERAPY
for reals.
if you don't care enough about her to go through the process with her, then just recommend she sees someone as you're breaking up with her.
She is 22
And as for therapy... she was diagnosed with depression at 16, has been in and out of hospital since, so I don't think another doctor will help any of this out.
Post pics please.
Stupid magnets.
What is Jealousy?
First, we'll go over what jealousy is. Jealousy is a feeling of concern or apprehension caused by a suspected rivalry in matters of interest and affection. This feeling may include the painful suspicion of the faithfulness of husband, wife, or lover.
There are three basic types of jealousies.
There is jealousy based on competition. This type of jealousy occurs when there is a real rivalry.
There is also jealousy that is projected. This feeling occurs when you blame your partner for being jealous, when its really you that is feeling jealous.
And there is disillusion jealousy. This is when someone is crazy and thinks their lover is rooting a work colleague and Elvis Presley reincarnate. Plus they scare people at the local park.
I put it to you Charles, that this is Projected Jealousy. Check yourself.
Damaged 22 year olds with retarded trust issues are totally hot. You should go on the trip so I can make the moves on your (soon-to-be-ex) girlfriend.
maybe your girlfriend wants in on all the fun, if you know what i mean.
auckland's a happening place, you know!
Yep. She sounds Bi-sexual. Pay her along and let the minge au tray begin.
. Please post some pics.
That last post sounded positively desperate, toad.